Ways to Promote Joint Attention With Your Child

Joint attention is a significant development milestone in human communication. Learn how joint development occurs and ways to promote joint attention with your child.

A mother and young son are outside, the mother is pointing at something in a nearby tree and her son is looking at it with curiosity.

Take a moment to imagine you’re at the park and your child spots a rabbit.  He looks at you and says “Rabbit!”.  Then points toward the rabbit and peers back at you to see if you see it. You look at the rabbit and say, “Oh wow, it looks like the rabbit is eating some grass.” Then you proceed to watch the rabbit together for another minute with your child peering over to you again to see if you are still watching too.

This small exchange may seem incredibly simple, yet it is an example of a type of interaction that has profound implications on a child’s development, called joint attention (also known as shared attention).  This foundational skill of being able to initiate and coordinate attention to the same object or activity as another person is a significant developmental milestone in human communication.

In a world filled with constant distractions and digital devices vying for our attention, the ability to engage in meaningful and shared focus is more valuable than ever. Joint attention is a cornerstone of effective communication and social interaction and promoting joint attention can have far-reaching implications in your child’s development.

In this blog, we will explore a variety of strategies and activities designed to foster joint attention in children and improve this crucial skill.

Development of Joint Attention

Joint attention is essential for various aspects of human development and social interaction. It supports language acquisition, cognitive development, learning, problem-solving, and the formation of social bonds.

In order to better promote joint attention in children, it is helpful to have some understanding of how this skill develops. Joint attention is thought to emerge gradually and incrementally in the first two years of a child’s life, developing in connection with a child’s physical, emotional, social, and cognitive development. As little ones continue to develop into the toddler years, they become more proficient in using gestures and words to initiate and maintain shared attention. As children continue to grow, they begin to engage in more complex joint attention activities, such as cooperative play and shared story reading. Their language development further supports their ability to engage in joint attention. It is a foundational skill that fosters effective communication, cooperation, and empathy, making it a critical aspect of human interaction and development.

Three sequential aspects are involved in the development of joint attention:

  1. Making bids for attention and regulating one’s own ability to shift and maintain attention to the object or event of interest
  2. Understanding the intentionality of communication behind bids for joint attention as a means of making requests, sharing information, and bonding with others
  3. Integrating objects and events into communication as topics of interest and shared experience, creating connections with others
Infographic highlighting the development milestones between 1-18 months as it relates to joint attention

It’s important to note that the timeline can vary from one child to another, and individual differences are common. Additionally, some children with developmental delays, including those on the autism spectrum, may exhibit atypical patterns of joint attention development, which may require specialized interventions and support to help them acquire these skills.

Early intervention is key! It is important to get assessment and support for your child tailored to his/her specific needs, strengths, personality, and situation.  Often this can involve various professionals with different expertise, depending on your child’s needs (multi-disciplinary approach).

Creating Connection: How to Develop and Promote Joint Attention

Promoting joint attention in young children is not only a key ingredient for successful early literacy but also an essential building block for their overall development.

Joint attention is a necessary skill for sharing information and experiences with other people. Research shows that the better a child’s joint attention skills are early on, the better their communication and general social skills are when they are older.  Helping your child develop joint attention helps your child to interact and share interests with others, practice turn-taking, experience connection with people, develop perspective-taking skills, and learn to navigate social situations and put language to these experiences in meaningful ways.

How to Promote the Development of Joint Attention

Eye Contact

Tips
  • Get on your child’s level
  • Enthusiasm & facial expression
  • Brief pauses – sometimes taking a brief pause before giving a toy to your child or pausing before responding is enough to have your child look up and make eye contact
  • Shift objects closer to your face can create more opportunities for shifting between the object and yourself

Turn-Taking

Tips
  • Taking turns encourages looking to another person for social clues, develops impulse control, and allows for shared experience –the key is to start short and simple 
  • Roll a ball back and forth a few times
  • Take turns dropping something into a container or contraption (shape sorter; token jar; ball drop or tube, etc)
  • Play a short game
  • Utilize objects and activities that your child really likes

Imitation

Tips
  • Games and songs like ‘Follow the Leader’, ‘Simon Says’, ‘Head, Shoulders, Knees, and Toes’
  • Imitate your child: if your child bangs two things together, bang two things together; if your child claps his/her hands together, clap your hands together, etc.
  • Imitation is the foundation for learning.  For a child who struggles with imitation, start by imitating his/her movements, sounds, and facial expressions

Shifting Attention

Tips
  • Games like Hide and Seek – where your child is encouraged to look to you for clues and gestures (you can hide a toy, present, or have a sibling or friend hide)
  • Blow bubbles and pop them together
  • Point or walk up to objects you want your child to look at or explore tactilely with you
  • Use expression or animation to your advantage to gain your child’s attention: through facial expression, verbally, or physically through gestures and touch
  • Change your volume or tone, such as whispering or talking like a robot
  • Brief Pauses – sometimes taking a brief pause before giving a toy to your child or pausing before responding is enough to have your child make the shift in attention from object to you

Child-Led Activities

Tips
  • Let your child choose the activity or way they want to engage with an activity
  • Be attentive to initiations of communication verbal or non-verbal and respond
  • Allow for trial and error, mistakes help children learn important concepts
  • Don’t take over the interactions
  • Observe, wait, and listen
  • Mimic your child’s level of interest and engagement
  • Do not correct or direct your child when he/she uses a tool or toy in a way that is not what it is intended for (unless it is harmful or grossly inappropriate) –allow them to pair things in unique and ‘out-of-the-box’ ways
  • Take note of your child’s interests – they are often expanding and shifting with their development

Respond to Bids

Tips
  • You can positively reinforce your child’s efforts in making attempts to initiate bids for joint attention by giving them your undivided attention, making eye contact, and responding thoughtfully
  • Provide vocabulary and language – instead of only saying, “oh nice”, “cool”, or “Yes, I see it”, try to name the object and provide some context to help further your child’s understanding and exposure to vocabulary.  For example, try “Wow, that is a big dog!  It is wagging its tail excitedly.  That dog is very happy!”  
  • Keep responses natural — avoid turning these moments into ‘work’ – remember that joint attention is about learning social skills and communication above everything else

Joint Activities

Tips
  • Building something together
  • Puzzles
  • Cooking or baking
  • Planting/gardening and watering plants
  • Building a fort or putting up a tent together
  • Crafting together  
  • Playing the piano or another instrument together
  • Singing and dancing together
  • Board games and other games  

Manipulate Environment

Tips
  • Deliberately put something in the wrong spot so your child will initiate a bid for your attention
  • Make a mistake on purpose or do something silly
  • Do something out of routine
  • Read a book your child knows well and insert a line of your own and see if your child catches it (or a classic nursery rhyme or song)

Music & Movement

Tips
  • Music is a great way to increase language and communication skills and children tend to respond well to music
  • Use slap-clap patterns with music your child can imitate and later do with you simultaneously
  • Take turns making drumming pattern sounds on a drum
  • Put on little musical performances
  • Dance to music
  • Music therapy

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Joint Attention and Shared Reading Experiences

As parents and educators, nurturing joint attention skills can be a powerful tool in paving the way for strong language and reading abilities in our little ones.

The act of sharing your attention with your little learner during a cozy storytime is a key aspect of why reading with children yields profound effects on their language and literacy development. Reading to children helps them understand how books are a source of sharing information. Through this shared experience, children are exposed to a rich array of vocabulary, presented in various contexts, which, in turn, nurtures their listening comprehension—a skill that forms the bedrock for future reading comprehension.

Mother with baby on her lap who is touching an open book that they are looking at together.

Creating a routine with reading, where you read or tell stories during a particular time in the day, be it before bed, first thing in the morning, or before or after nap time, can lead to greater success with children attending to a book with you. Young children respond well to consistency as this helps them know what to expect. Point to pictures, ask open-ended questions, and encourage your child to do the same. These moments of reading together can be a powerful way of bonding with your little one and enjoying the beautiful world of story together.

Tiny Steps, Big Reads: Everyday Literacy Hacks


Discover the magic in the mundane, with literacy hacks that fit right into your life – because big reads start with the smallest steps.

Try This Intentional Practice.

Pick a small everyday activity in the day that you might typically not be present with and are thinking about other things, for example, taking off shoes after morning outings or grabbing fruit from the fridge or fruit bowl to cut up during morning snack time.

The key is to pick only ONE SIMPLE daily routine either in the morning, afternoon, or evening. Even better if this routine occurs at the same time every day because consistency makes a world of difference when it comes to building habits.

During this time, challenge yourself to be fully present with your little one and to come up with an interesting and creative question, comment, or little exchange/interaction for you and your little one to explore together.

Take the example of getting a fruit from the fruit basket, you might point to each type of fruit and name it. If your child knows the name well, you might try to fool your child and call one of the fruits a funny name and watch for your child’s reaction.

On a different day you might take three types of fruit, put them on a plate, and together count how many fruits there are on the plate. Next, you might call yourself a hungry hippo and then take one fruit away without your child being able to see which one. When your little one sees the plate with only two fruits on it, do they notice one is missing? Can your child name the fruit that is missing?

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Key OOLiteracy Takeaways

  • Joint attention is the coordinated attention to the same object or activity as another person which is experienced through gestures, actions, gaze, speech, and emotions and is essential in creating connections with others.
  • Joint attention emerges gradually and incrementally in the first two years of a child’s life and children become more adept at engaging in increasingly complex and longer episodes of joint attention as they continue to develop.
  • Skills with joint attention are foundational for language, social, cognitive, and verbal and nonverbal communication development.
  • There are many ways parents and caregivers can help their little ones develop joint attention skills, such as reading together and using strategies to encourage eye contact, imitation, turn-taking, and shifting attention from object to person and vice versa.

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